If I could tell my young- self, anything, it would be to :
Stop Wasting many chances on the same person.
People come to your life for a reason. Don’t hold on toxic people, or give more than one chance for the same person under the same circumstances. Let space in your life for new people who would appreciate it instead of keeping your life pending for different expectations toward same behavior.
We are taught to scarify and invest in order to save our relationships. Nobody taught us that no matter how much you will do so; it will never be enough as long as you give to the wrong person. It still won’t matter.
If something is over and done. Don’t hold on it. Break free, move forward and experience a new beginning. Give the chance to someone else that deserves it.
It is not only in relationships, even if it is a lifestyle, a job… if it doesn’t make you happy, let it go!
They say you are the average of the five people you spend the most of your time with. Those who make you better, who want to see you grow, who see greatness in you, who are good for your mental health. Those who are inspired, excited and grateful are the one you should keep in your life.
Those who take your time and your kindness for granted, let you down, break your spirit, and suck your energy… why you give them the power to stay in your life? What’s the point? You hope they would change!
It is just a waste of your precious time and energy to hold on meaningless relationships or friendships … Any forced interaction or unnecessary conversation won’t lead you any further but even move you back.
My friends always keep questioning how fast I move on my relationships. Between being cold hearted and too rational, they are divided.
Well, it is simple. I have a theory. I believe each person have a soulmate or many maybe. We meet them according to destiny in an order. Let’s say; my Mr. or Mrs. Right is number 15. I have to meet previously the other 14 Mr. /Mrs. Wrong before getting to know my Mr. /Mrs. Right. If I will get stuck with anyone of Mr. /Mrs. Wrong on this list, I am just delaying the time I would meet my Mr. /Mrs. Right. I may even miss meeting my Mr. /Mrs. Right in this life!
and Start Taking care of yourself.
Being healthy, in good shape, putting yourself first no matter what, no matter who is the other person is mandatory. You may have others taking care of you. It is just a bonus. You, taking care of yourself is the real prize.
Nothing in this life you can achieve or become can have any meaning if you aren’t in your best to enjoy it. I can’t count how many times I was pushing myself, not taking enough care of my health. I reached my goals but wasn’t on my best to enjoy my success. I even missed few times awards announcements!
We keep worrying about many things (work, commitments, and people); we forget that they don’t really matter. Just think about it, what’s the worst thing that may happen if you lose your job, if your plan has changed, or if others don’t appreciate you or leave you. It doesn’t matter; it is still something you can manage but your health, the way you look and appreciate yourself no.
Another way to not take good care of yourself is to keep planning for the future and miss the present. We keep saying next time, something better will happen. I will do that or wear that in a better occasion in the future. What if the next occasion won’t come! What’s wrong with being happy now not in the future?
You owe yourself the love you give to others. If you care so much about the people you love and care about, then you shouldn’t think twice about taking care of yourself. If you are tired, get some rest. If you are sick, get the necessary treatment. Don’t let your condition becomes worse or contagious and affects people around you to get or ask for the necessary help.
If you can’t do something, it is beyond you or an extra burden, just say no. Don’t overuse yourself in vain. Make sure anytime you say yes to others or something else, you are not saying no to yourself. Make sure, you first stay loyal and true to yourself and self-expectations not to what others wait or demand. Do not abuse yourself.
The older I get, the more I realize that it is okay to live a life others don’t understand.